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Monday, June 27

correlation to causality

Sorry it's been a little while since the last post, but it feels like a little like cheating to be posting at a Dad blog when my kid is nowhere to be found. So what's a Dad-blogger to do? Some might say, "start by going to find your kid," but I do know where he is (really). Start-Up Mom and Kaden have been down in North Carolina since last Thursday. I had to stay in Boston a few extra days to attend some meetings (there's that whole starting a company and starting children conflicting again) but will join them today.

I could talk about how things are going here, but it is just much more interesting to contemplate the causality of certain behaviors of a newborn than it is to gab about Battlestar Gallactica and Chinese food.

So, let me present on ongoing conundrum for a curiously analytical parent.. so much is constantly changing it's incredibly difficult to pin down whether A behavior caused B effect. To put in economic terms, it's easy to find correlation and near impossible to prove causality.

Case in point: Kaden has previously been a very good sleeper, and up until recently woke only once a night. But he has now become nighttime Cujo (or perhaps the Sleep Nazi would be more appropriate). What started as a low "drip, drip" of slight wakings turned into a gush of "no sleep for you!" over the course of a week.

Simultaneously, Kaden has recently figured out how to nap during the day (finally) which is great. So it's logical to think that his longer day naps were enough to mess up his night sleep patterns. Except, we don't know if it was the napping. While true that he started to nap longer at the same time his night sleep screwed up, there are plenty of other possible causes.

  • He has started drooling like crazy. Seriously, we could use a mouth diaper.
  • We installed an air conditioner the same week
  • He started sucking his pacifier a lot more, which could mean waking up a lot and wanting it
  • Kaden is stronger and getting out of his swaddling
  • He has just learned to roll on his side, which is cute. Unfortunately previous to this the only times he was on his side is to breastfeed.. which means his life experience has tied the two together. So now he rolls on his side in the middle of the night and then assumes that because he is there, a nipple should be presented soon.

While I try and hammer away at what the cause is, it's pretty clear that the solution is just to help teach Kaden to be able to soothe himself back to sleep. If he can take care of himself then the problem goes away (well, technically he still wakes up so I guess it just becomes his problem and not ours). While in DC they apparently have Brazilian families to help with this sort of thing, we're on our own. So I have begun putting him in the crib after his eyes are closed, but just before he's really asleep.

It's interesting, before I had Kaden I thought of parenting in very distinct stages. The first 15-18 years was about looking out for your child, showing up at soccer practice, and so on. Next you'd start trying to teach them how to live on their own and be self-reliant, somewhere around late high-school/early college. But it would seem that from the very first day of trying to get him to put himself back to sleep, it's all just a continuum of teaching how to be independent.


Blogger joey said...

We have a working theory on the mouth drooling w/ Sophia (3 months) that its her teeth beginning to come in. Whether this means she is annoyed or angry or obliviously drooling I don't know. But we're also experiencing sleep incosistencies...for which we have another theory - she's a baby. This is our working answer for everything we don't know, in fact.

Actually - I read that teething can occur anytime b/w 4mo - 2yrs, is not a problem unless fever or other symptoms occur, that you can rub their gums (maybe why Kaden likes the paci more lately?) and finally that all babies drool (from a friend w/ 63 kids of experience - owned a day care).

Blogger Nabeel said...

Ah yes, teething, that could be it. We have brought that up as a possibility and the usual response from seasoned mothers and pediatricians ranges from a dramatic eye-roll to openly scoffing, "oh no, silly new parent, you'll know when he's teething."

The nurse practitioner at his four-month check-up say the drool and said everyone thinks as soon as they start drooling they are teething, but we ain't seen nothing yet. Me, I'm thinking if this kid drools anymore I'm taking up the remainins area rugs and just having a iRobot Scuba doing 24 hour duty.

Blogger Nabeel said...

A quick search also found More Diapers talking a bit more about teething in Teething Maybe


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